So it has taken me 4 months to write a post! Wow, time flies. I have spent it well, growing and giving birth to an amazing baby boy. I could write a lot about pregnancy and childbirth and act all wise on the subject now I have been through it, but honestly, none of the advice I got pre-birth was any good. So instead, I will just write down what I wish I had known.
1) You really don't need to ask other people about their birthing experience. I mean, do it if you are curious, but every childbirth is unique so chances are, you won't have a similar experience.
2) Instead, read up on the phases of childbirth so you know the different stages and know how far along in the process you are.
3) And while we're at it, don't listen to other people's horrendous stories. It is with childbirth like it is with wisdom teeth... As soon as you mention it, people are ready to share their horror stories. And tell me this please: How will it help me to know "it hurts"??? I KNOW THAT! But let me also tell you this: I got through my experience without any pain relief (there was no time), and I am still here :-).
4) Trust the midwives and doctors. They know what they are doing.
And that's really it. Most likely, you will have the baby and for the first weeks wonder why the hell you did this and how your life will ever be normal again. But it is amazing how you adjust - and things will be normal again. It's all a process so don't give up. And the love... owww the love... That is the ONE thing people have told me which is absolutely true. Get ready to feel a new and totally new kind of love.